I have to share with everyone ‘the work’ that I just accomplished thanks to myself, RaeDawn & Byron Katie. My last three posts (and many others) have been about my issues and prejudices about other parents and their parenting. I get it now. I can connect. I no longer have to feel isolated, because I no longer have to isolate myself. I have taken the walk down the road of the story that I had and now I am leaving that story behind. I had allowed myself & my child to be ‘dragged behind the truck’ of other parents & their actions.
I finally get it. I can finally feel and give the Love that I have always wanted others to feel & give. I have so much more to say, but it is hard for me to find the words to articulate my feelings. Love. Love is what I feel right now and this moment of clarity is profound.
Wow, that good eh. I keep meaning to get her book as I often hear in some circles how good it is.
Comment by :::::::::::: wife mom maniac :::::::::::: — October 20, 2008 @ 11:56 pm
Honestly, I haven’t read the book. However, the ’4 questions’ that she uses or asks you to use can be likened to questions/steps/’skills’ used in good old couch therapy. It’s more about changing your perception of the things in your life, becoming an accepting person, especially of those things which you can not change and finding it in yourself to change those things that you are able to change.
“Be the change you want to see in the world” — Gandhi
I don’t think you *have to* read the book to do ‘the work’.
Comment by michele james-parham — October 21, 2008 @ 2:25 am
I am interested. I only recently heard of her and “the work”. I am glad for you that you have found some peace in your own head/heart/soul. I think that is what alot of it is about. Something to consider, anyway.
in joy and hope,
Jody
Comment by jody — October 28, 2008 @ 12:10 am
wow, that looks intense. i know i try to do some of those steps on my own but haven’t often reached the point of turning around a habit. i enjoy turning around my assumptions and beliefs sometimes, to a point.. but i still have plenty of “you are wrong”s that i hold on to. again, thanks for sharing this resource!
Comment by Regina — December 4, 2008 @ 12:58 am
Regina- I’d have to say that intense is an understatement! Often times it really hurts to see how you trick yourself into feeling about something much more than the ‘offending’ reality hurts. Turning around a habit is very hard and easy to fall back onto…always have progress and not perfection in my sight. Nice to hear from you.
Comment by michele james-parham — December 4, 2008 @ 11:48 am