Natural Attachment

February 17, 2011

TED: vulnerability

Filed under: Parental,Politics,Religiosophy — Tags: , , , , — michele james-parham @ 11:18 pm

this post and several before it are fantastic pieces about the things in Egypt from someone actually living in Egypt.

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i always carried my son. in fact, i carried him a recently as about 8 months ago and he’s 7.5 years old now! i never understood the desire for confining a baby in a ‘bucket’ aka car seat for times other than when they are actually in a moving vehicle. kind of beyond me. this article is full of information that seemed logical to me at the time, speaks to my instincts and might help out some folks.

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The Power of Vulnerability — Yes! Yes! Yes!

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Wisdom Teeth

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February 5, 2011

birthday week 2011 – day 7 (wind down & linky love)

Today is the last day of my birthday week. I’m winding down.

Going to clean up Legos off the floor so that the almost one year old that I kidsit for tomorrow doesn’t try to eat them.

I see that doing dishes are in my near future.

It’s another beautiful Winter day; currently it’s 38 degrees F and bright and sunny. Almost feels like early Spring.

Unschooling parents are lazy

And so what if we are?

Speaking of ‘Unschooling’, if you are looking for nuggets to strew or you are just looking for a new blog with cool things, try over here.

Desecration (remember, there’s roll-over text people)

Also, Thaddeus Russell’s book, A Renegade History of the United States, came up in a Facebook conversation. Open your mind, drop your white progressive liberal pc politics for a minute and read it.

And then, if you still want something else to read, but are looking for something not so serious, try:  A Dictionary of Modern Slang, Cant, and Vulgar Words: Used At the Present Day in the Streets of London (1860), by John Camden Hotten

And, last but definitely not least, go check out my Dear Other Half‘s Flickr sets.

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August 2, 2009

5th Annual Anarchist Picnic

Yesterday was POG’s 5th Annual Anarchist Picnic in Pittsburgh, PA. We had fun, though I didn’t find it as enjoyable as last year. I guess mainly because the location changed and it seemed like fewer people came out.I’ve got a few pictures for you though…

group photo

group photo

the future belongs to the daring

the future belongs to the daring

I just got hit with a water balloon thanks to Elijah!

I just got hit with a water balloon thanks to Elijah!

water balloon fun

water balloon fun

more water balloon fun

more water balloon fun

Elijah getting ready to launch a balloon

Elijah getting ready to launch a balloon

Tragedy struck shortly after the water balloon fight…Elijah was headed off to go play with the other kids again and he stepped on a bee. Somehow, I just knew that’s what he had done. I ran over grabbed his foot and used to my finger nails to tweeze out the stinger without squishing the venom sac and forcing more into his foot. Then, without even thinking about it, I sucked as hard as I could on the spot and spit to get out as much venom as I could. No big deal you say, but I am allergic to bees…like hand me an epi-pen or I’ll die allergic to bees. It’s been around 18 years since I’ve been stung by a bee and I have no idea how I might react.

Elijah ended up in pain a bit, but no swelling and no other ill effects. I had a numb mouth, lips, slightly tight throat and a really fuzzy head. No one went to the hospital, no one died and we learned that Elijah isn’t allergic to bees. As for me, well, if getting a little venom in my mouth can cause the reaction that it did, then I don’t think I want to get stung any time soon. Unfortunately, we did have to leave before the piñata fun, but we were able to raid the piñata for a couple goodies for the ride home — no one likes to see a sad/hurt child.

Here’s our moments of fame from local media…
KDKA Channel 2
Pittsburgh Tribune-Review
Channel 11 News came out, took some pictures & filmed a bit, but apparently we weren’t “radical” enough for them to put us on the TV

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More Community; Less Schools

Over at Radio Free School, there are excerpts from John Taylor Gatto’s We need less school not more-Families, Communities, Networks and the Proposed Enlargement of Schooling (1991)

Makes me think about my challenge I sent the Children’s Museum of Pittsburgh.

Gatto continues, “Networks like schools are not communities in the same way that school training is not education. By preempting 50 percent of the total time of the young, by locking young people up with young people exactly their own age, by ringing bells to start and stop work, by asking people to think about the same thing at the same time in the same way, by grading people the way we grade vegetables-and in a dozen other vile and stupid ways-net work schools steal the vitality of communities and replace it with an ugly piece of mechanism.”

Community on the other hand is a place “that faces people at each other over time in all their human variety, good parts, bad parts, and all the rest. Such places promote the highest quality of life possible, lives of engagement and participation. This happens in unexpected ways but it never happens when you’ve spent more than a decade listening to other people talk-and trying to do what they tell you to do, trying to please them after the fashion of schools.”

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July 11, 2009

Unschooling: Being Held Accountable

I find it humorous that I should be “held accountable” for another individual’s education. Schools sure as hell are NOT being held accountable for the “education” they are providing — even though many would site the harshness of NCLB school closings..hey, you either “voted” for it or didn’t oppose it loud enough. My child has a right to an education. I have an obligation to make sure he has the opportunity to learn while he’s legally bound to me and if I can’t fulfill that obligation, then my state will supposedly fulfill it for me. What if I feel that my child’s school isn’t “fulfilling” it’s obligation? There’s not a lot that I can do, but if the school feels as though I am not fulfilling my obligation or does’t “like” how I am doing it, it can do something. That something can end up destroying a family. Short of doing something illegal, I can not destroy a school very easily.

As far as I am concerned, neither the Federal Government nor the State should have any jurisdiction over education other than to provide “education/learning opportunities” to those persons who have few or no other opportunities and who wish to utilize opportunities provided by the government. Education should be a right, not a mandate & voluntary, just like voting. If I don’t want an “education” then I shouldn’t be forced to have one, nor should I be forced to have one that I have no say in designing or governing. Imagine how horrible our economic situation would be if we didn’t have compulsory “baby-sitting” and all our 12, 13, 14 yr old and so children were able to be in the work force. We might just be pushed over the edge for a Revolution.

The main point about reporting and accountability I want to make is that what matters most is how children feel they are doing. Do they feel like they have access to what they need/want? Do they feel as though they are succeeding in the areas they seek to acquire skills? Do they feel confident in their journey? Do they struggle with certain things and have access to people, places or props to help them with their struggles? Do they have the fuel & fodder they need for their passions? There are no “gaps” in a person’s education if they aren’t being compared to other people or to a one-size-fits-all curriculum.

“Experts” and officials spend so much time and resources guesstimating what children *should* know and learn, but they never take into account what children *want* to know and learn. Critics of this idea (personal education plans) say that you can’t have a school where there isn’t a curriculum or where you don’t require certain skills/knowledge to be mastered by a certain age/grade. And to those uninformed persons, I show exhibit A) Sudbury Valley Schools B) Albany Free School C) Summerhill School D) other Free Schools and Democratic Schools

Coincidence (no such thing): I am going this evening to a meeting about a possible Unschooling Cooperative/Free School for here in Pittsburgh, PA. We’ll see how that goes.

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Unschooling: Evaluations & Portfolios

“Can you really do that? Is it legal? What about socialization?” Then there are some more questions people like to ask when you tell them you are Unschooling. Eventually though, they ask, “Don’t you have to report to the school and take tests?”

Answers to the last question vary and depend on where you live. In some states, such as Oklahoma (where we moved from), you don’t have to do ANYTHING other than state that you are homeschooling if you remove a child from school. There are no rules, regulations, requirements, evaluations or portfolios to deal with. I would call it an Unschooler’s Paradise!

Unfortunately, here in Pennsylvania, you have to jump through some hoops. PA is considered one of the more difficult states to Homeschool in, but it’s not impossible. The warning I give everyone, regardless of where they live is: if you choose to comply with your state’s Home-Ed Law, do so as minimally as possible; don’t give over or report anything that the law does not explicitly ask for, because if you do, it only makes it harder for other Homeschoolers in the future — if you give a school district an inch, they’ll try to drag you & everyone else for miles.

Besides counseling Unschooling families in PA myself, I refer them to askpauline.com. Pauline has compiled mountains of information for Homeschoolers in our state and I am grateful. It appears that most questions I receive from people regarding the law apply to portfolios. Pauline has some resources here for portfolio pages and ideas. I will stress again to only include the absolute minimum number of required pages for the portfolio…do NOT be one of these parents with portfolios the size of a phone-book — it only hurts your fellow Homeschoolers. It’s fine to keep tons of examples of things your children have done throughout the year, but you do NOT have to submit all 5000 of them — only a few. There are several Unschooling mums in PA who only submit portfolios consisting of approximately 12 photocopied pages for their children and practically half of those are book lists and such and only about half are copies of “work” done by their children. I’d encourage more families to comply in such a manner — you can always submit more if it is truly necessary & in keeping with the actual law, but you can not retract a phone-book’s worth of pages.

We do have options for testing and one of the best options is NOT testing. Though our Home-Ed Law does require that in grades 3, 5 & 8 all homeschooled children be tested and that test results  (for reading/language arts & math only) be included with their portfolios in those years, it does NOT require parents to assign a grade level to their children. Plainly what I mean is that you do not have to include what “grade” your children are in, only their ages. If your child is the age of the average 3rd, 5th or 8th grader, but they are involved in a higher/lower “grade level” of exploration and engagement, then you (as the home-ed supervisor) can decide that they are NOT a 3rd, 5th or 8th grader and therefor are NOT required to be tested and have those test results submitted — if they are tested, it need not be at “grade level” either. Homeschooled children can be “held back” or “skipped ahead” like traditionally schooled children. And apparently, a lot of homeschooling parents have opted to just not include test results until they are asked for via certified mail — oddly, many parents are never asked for them via any means.

In PA we also have to have our portfolios viewed by an evaluator. We get to choose our evaluators, they look over the portfolio, sign off that an “appropriate education” and “sustained progress” is taking place and then the portfolios are sent in with the evaluator’s letter. The important thing to remember about evaluators is that they are working for you (whether or not they are being compensated). Dayna Martin has a good post about “shopping” for an evaluator.

While I oppose our state’s regulations, I don’t think they have to be treated as this scary monster under the bed. You either comply or you don’t. You either comply to the wording of the law or you be as creative with your thinking and interpretation of how to comply with the law as you feel suits your needs. Thankfully, in PA we have some time, because we don’t have to “do” anything until children are 8yrs old (or the following year for birthdays mid-Sept. & after) and then we’re only required to “do” whatever it is that we do until and including the day before a child turns 17yrs old.

And thankfully, if you are ever confused you can contact the homeschooling liasion.

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